Jodechi's blog
The healer in you
Tuesday 8th of December 2009
Take a minute and think about this. If you are not happy- who is to blame? Who is responsible for our happiness? Do we blame it on our parents because we had a lousy childhood?
Maybe we were sent away to boarding school at a young age, we felt unloved by our parents or unwanted, and it left deep scars inside of us. Or what about that bully at school who used to torment us and beat on us. Can’t he be blamed for our low self-esteem twenty years later?
What about the girl who told us we were fat and ugly when we were ten years old? Let’s blame her for our negative view of ourselves.
What about so many horrific things that have happened to all of us along the way- along our lives journeys? Some of us have had truly horrible things happen to us- surely we can blame our failures, our unhappiness, our ill health- all of these can be as a direct result of something terrible that we experienced in the past- right? Wrong.
Of course our past reflects our present. Of course it does. But there comes a time in our lives when we absolutely must stop blaming the things that have happened to us and LET THEM GO. FOREVER.
There are too many times when someone comes to me for healing and all their unhappiness is blamed on significant things that happened in their past. Different forms of abuse and suffering. But by holding on so tightly to the blame, the hatred, the anger they are simply extending the pain and suffering. Some people have been holding onto things for forty, fifty years. Its time to let go.
I do realise that this isn’t easy to do and I am not trying to be flippant- far from it. I am just saying look at your life. What negative memories and thoughts are you still hanging on to? What are you allowing to get in the way of your happiness? Look at these things and begin to let them go. These things happened in the past, leave them there. Move forward. Take your happiness back. You are an adult now. It is time to be responsible for your life. Stop blaming.
What has happened in the past, it happened. We cannot change what has already happened but we can change how we live now today and into the future. None of us knows how long our lives will last and in my healing work I work with many people that have been diagnosed with terminal illnesses. There is no time to waste or put things off. Live life now.
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